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Not Quite a Date
This weekend my husband and I are getting out of the house without the kids for the first time since before my son was born. That’s 8 months! To say I’m excited would be an understatement. It’s actually his 10 year high school reunion party, so it’s not quite a date, but I’ll take it.
So, I’m sure you’re asking yourself “Why the heck have you waited so long to leave your kids with someone?” Well, the truth is, I don’t really have a reason. Okay, I have a lot of reasons. I guess the reasons are more of excuses. I just really love being with my kids and when my husband is home on the weekends, we like to do stuff as a family. Although I want to go out and have some fun I’m a worrier and overly protective. When the subject of going out comes up, I toy with the idea, but before it ever actually happens I talk myself out of it.
Being You and Not Just Mommy
Last week a conversation came up with my husband about how our entire lives revolve around the kids and we never make any time for us anymore. He said something that really hit me hard and it made me realize we need to make a change. “I don’t even know who we are anymore.” (Apart from just being mommy and daddy). My heart started beating a little harder and I thought to myself. When is the last time I was able to just be Halie, and not Mommy?
Now don’t get me wrong, being mommy is the best thing I’ve ever done. I think sometimes I just get so wrapped up in it that I forget something really important. The whole reason we have this family is because first we were Halie and Tommy. We traveled and tried new things. We never got stuck in this routine…we had fun and he was my best friend.
I went to bed that night a little sad, feeling like I was losing touch with that part of myself. I decided right then that I’m going to bring us back! We can be better than ever. It might take a little extra effort, but my relationship with him is important to me. It’s important to our entire family. I want our kids to grow up seeing what a happy relationship looks like.
Date and Activity Ideas
I’ve started compiling a little list of things you can do with your significant other as simple dates or even just activities to strengthen your relationship. We are going to start checking some of these off the list and taking more time for just the two of us. If you find yourself wondering where the spark went, I hope these can help you to remember who you are as a couple too.